She raised me part 1

My wife an I are so incredibly close! Over the years we grew closer to one another and more importantly closer to God. We were always inseparable, but instead of people seeing how in love we were all they could say is, “don’t you feel like you need some space?” or, “you two really need to spend some time apart, its not healthy to spend that much time with one person.” It really used to annoy me when people would say things like that, but I would listen despite my disdain toward the concept. This led me to make a lot of mistakes and almost kept me from the beautiful marriage I have today.

In my adolescence I tried my best not to be stubborn and to adhere to advice from my elders only to be led astray. These people I looked to for sound information on how to be a man would only teach me how to prolong my boyhood. Then my wife came along with aΒ clear perspective on who she was, completely unashamed of the gospel and a seasoned love for Jesus. That blew me away!Β We were only 14 when we met so this was extremely uncommon to me.

Today I asked myself, “why is it such a common thought that a couple should spend time away from each other.” Then I realized two things, the first is whenever God puts something together the world tries to tear it apart and believe me the world almost won. If it weren’t for my wife being so mature in Christ at such a young age and instilling that spiritual grounding in me we wouldn’t have lasted past our second year together. God was using this woman to bring me closer to him and if I were to lose her my chances of understanding him would have faded into obscurity. The second thing I realized is I should post about how she literally raised me but that post would be way too long so I decided to make it a series.

This series is dedicated to the person that God used to teach me how to be a man, all the lessons I have learned from and with her and how she took a broken down, confused, angry follower of the wide road and set him on the narrow path that leads to everlasting life. This series is dedicated to my wife Rebekah!

18 thoughts on “She raised me part 1

  1. Julian, Your wife sounds like an incredible women. It sounds like you both are giving a lot to this relationship. After 23 years of marriage, I’m still learning how to avoid being self centered and focus on more giving in our relationship. I’ve learned that the more I give, the more I receive. I discovered this lesson in the bible, and have found it to be completely true when put into practice. It makes for an wonderful relationship!

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    1. I agree 1000%, thank you so much for the insight brother. Giving is definitely a huge focus in our relationship and we will definitely make sure it stays that way!!!


  2. Hi Julian.
    I really like your writing style and of course this tribute to your wife is amazing! Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you didn’t exactly grow up in a Christian home, same as me.
    As you know my blog, Song of Virginity – thanks for the follow! – is all about why keeping your virginity until marriage is a good thing and a Godly thing to do and why. But I would like the blog to aim for the young guys as well as the girls, so I wonder if you perhaps would be interested in writing a piece for Song of Virginity some day? No rush… I know you got a lot on your plate and it’s only if you feel led to do it.
    Thanks and let me know eventually… πŸ™‚ Lord bless you.

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    1. Wow I truly appreciate the kind words and love. haha and yeah I grew up in a christian home with christians that didnt really behave like christians with the exception of my mom. I love what your doing, its a very important topic to speak on and I would be delighted to write something for your page.


      1. Thanks for the reply. I would love the blog to reach the young guys! Fun – when you feel led, please write a post and email it to me on lene272091 at subject “Song of Virginity”. Your post will of course have a link to your blog and a short intro from me, but apart from that, the only thing I stand strong on is that there are no raised – or pointed fingers but I think you already get that. It’s no rush, so take your time and I look forward to hearing from you.

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      2. Hey I’m in the process of writing yours I’m just trying to really make sure it’s the message I want to send and making sure exactly what I wanna say haha. But hey I’d love to have you guest post on my site as well if your interested. I don’t have as much of a following but I think it’d be awesome to have something from you on there.

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      3. Sure. Would love to, thanks for asking. I’m in the middle of summer break here so a little tied up – take your time on the guest post πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘πŸ½
        Is there a theme you’d like me to write about in a guest post? That might help me narrow subjects down πŸ˜‰…


      4. Hi Julian – how is your post coming along? No pressure, just thought I’d ask… When you are ready, feel free to email it to me at lene272091 @
        And about the guest post for your blog – I’d be honored, but could you give me a subject to write on??.. πŸ˜‰ Thanks.

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      5. I’ve been working on it a lot actually I just want to make sure it’s perfect ya know? Haha sorry it’s taking a bit long I just got back from a long vacation so needless to say I’ll be writing a lot haha. Also I would love for you to write about a defining moment in your life, like a moment where Jesus showed up and made something abundantly clear to you!

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      6. Thanks! Take your time. I understand it’s holiday season. I’ll be away the next weeks so won’t be checking in much πŸ˜‰.
        A defining moment in my life… Okay – I already know what that is! Thank you and stay in touch πŸ˜‡. Blessings.

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  3. Rebekah sounds amazing – I am so glad God brought her into your life.
    I am sure you bring out the best in each other. The enemy loves to tear apart marriages – – the Bible tells us in
    Mark 10:9 (ESV) What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
    A marriage that has 3 God, husband, and wife can sustain all the world tries to destroy
    Ecclesiastes 4:12 Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
    God bless the marriage of Julian & Rebekah !!!

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    1. My beky truly is amazing she has a true heart for God!!!! I love her so much and am so blessed to have her. Thank you for sharing these passages. things like this always come in handy down the line when your struggling. you jewels that you have dropped here I will certainly look back on in the future for inspiration. There is so much to be learned in this world and I am glad to have you here as a sister in Christ giving me all of the essential life hacks with God hahahaha. Advice from elders that are faithful to God is legitimately like a cheat code for life to help you avoid long suffering!!! hahaha so thank you again so much!!! and feel free to spread as much wisdom as you possibly can!

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